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Toxic children believe their problems are caused by the inadequacy and
insufficiency of their parents. They believe
life is miserable because the parents do not give them what they want.
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My Child Does the Following:
(This could be an Adult Child as well as a child still in the home)
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T or F
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1. Complains that life is unfair.
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T or F
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2. Accuses me of unfair treatment.
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T or F
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3. Yells, screams, swears, name calls, or throws a tantrum on a weekly basis (or more often).
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T or F
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4. Threatens injury to self or others if he doesn't get his way.
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T or F
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5. Has an inability or unwillingness to be truly grateful.
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T or F
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6. Rejects responsibility for his own behavior. Blames other circumstances for his inappropriate behavior.
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T or F
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7. Expects me to "bail him or her out" of poor judgment decisions.
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T or F
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8. Tries to make me feel guilty for being less than perfect as a parent.
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T or F
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9. Projects a feeling that I "owe him" and that he is entitled to special treatment because of my inadequacies.
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T or F
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10. Reacts dramatically to any criticism.
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T or F
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11. Projects an attitude of never being satisfied.
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T or F
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12. Hurts others in the name of "teasing."
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T or F
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13. Seems to be angry or sullen most of the time.
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Total "True" Answers: ______
Explanation for number of true answers:
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0 - 3
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Normal, but not necessarily healthy.
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4 - 6
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Child is testing boundaries
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7 - 9
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Has a serious problem
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10 - 11
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This child thinks he/she is the parent
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12 - 13
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This child thinks he/she is a king or queen
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