Ten Articles of Commitment To Myself and To My Mate

Article I
I am willing to learn to become a more loving person. I am willing to sincerely commit myself to keeping my mind and heart open to the information, knowledge, and skills that I have or will receive. I will practice the skills I have learned or will yet learn to improve my ability to communicate loving behaviors.

Article II
I am willing to pay a price in time and emotional energy to increase my knowledge and skills and also to reprioritize my schedule to make time to implement these behaviors.

Article III
I am willing to become a Content Communicator. I will own my words and be responsible for the verbal content of my messages. I will say what I mean and mean what I say. I will avoid hint dropping and relying upon body language or nonverbal means of communicating. I will not expect others to read my mind or discern the intent of my expectations. I will own my words in a respectful manner. I will not parent my equals by suggesting what they should, need, or ought to do.

Article IV
I am willing to work on a positive attitude. I am willing to admit there are areas of strength as well as areas of weakness in my ability to communicate love. I am willing to maximize my loving behaviors and work on eliminating the toxic traits, which make me less lovable, and focus on those skills that will enhance positive points of contact between us.

Article V
I am willing to commit to a sincere effort to improve my communication skills in my mate's "Love Language" and to be a greater source of affection, acceptance, and appreciation.

Article VI
I am willing to refrain from speaking ill of my mate to friend, family, or stranger. I will not embarrass or belittle my mate in front of others by making critical comments, nor will I be critical of my mate in their absence. I will also ask for permission to criticize my mate.

Article VII
I am willing to forgive my mate for all past wrongs, hurt feelings, unmet expectations, and personal heartaches and let God be the Judge. I will also forgive myself for personal failures and rededicate myself to becoming my highest and most loving self.

Article VIII
I am willing to focus on becoming my highest and best self. I have 100% responsibility over my expectations and over my half of any relationship to which I am a party. I will seek to become the best I can be. I will not focus on fear and doubt in spite of any feeling of personal inadequacy or past failures.

Article IX
I am willing to set aside any conflicting relationship in order to devote myself to properly focusing on my ability to love my mate.

Article X
I am willing to work on these assignments for 90 consecutive days. If I miss a day I will rededicate myself to a sincere effort until I have achieved a total of 90 days.

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Once you have signed with honesty and integrity this personal commitment, you are prepared for an incredible journey of the human spirit, i.e. the adventure of becoming a more loving person.